The real deal about ‘mindset’ and when it’s missing the mark | High-End Sales Expert for Unconventional Photographers and Creative Entrepreneurs.
It’s almost daily I see someone who has created authority for themselves in the industry start talking about ‘mindset’, but most of the time it’s missing the mark.
I think some people don't fully understand what strengthening your mindset is. It's not thinking positively or bullshitting yourself. It's also not ignoring the very real circumstances people have.
I see often people say they help with "mindset" and it's mostly toxic gaslighting to the person or in a way making them feel shame. The newest ‘mindset’ issue I am seeing people saying they help with is ‘imposter syndrome’ and the Rx for it seems to be ‘just believe in yourself’. I’m also seeing a lot of people talking about essentially positively thinking themselves out of real things that affect their business like societal norms, racism, beauty bias, poverty, and so much more.
It seems to have a similar message like if you were to break your leg and a doctor goes "just walk it off", versus looking at the leg, seeing where it's broken, seeing what modifications you'll need in your daily life as you heal it, and then what you need after it's healed. It doesn't change the fact the leg was broken, it's about how you deal with it.
What it really is and what I help people with as the basis of everything, even strategy, is how you look at things. If your brain is constantly seeking out and expecting ways for you to fail and never finding the ways you will succeed, then you'll always fail.
How you expect things. How your brain catastrophizes things before you've even started them.
Working on building new neural pathways for new desired behaviors.
Finding the root cause of the fear that’s holding people stuck and how each individual needs to overcome it because it’s never a one-sized-fits-all approach to how people get over the same fear.
We work on a lot of just changing the way things are perceived and how to make your actual circumstances work for you.
I have a real neurodevelopment disability, ADHD. I don't ever think you can positively think your way out of these types of circumstances, but you can change how you look at them and work with them. Not working with them vs working with them.
It's all mindset but it's not this toxic bullshit I see a lot on the internets that is saying that's what "working on your mindset" is. I keep seeing a lot of like weird emotional bypassing for the sake of mindset- and that's not what it is.
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